I know who I am, NOW what?

Unfiltered with Peps - Part 4

There’s a quiet confidence that comes with clarity. It’s not loud or boastful, it simply knows. When I said yes to the journey of finding God, I didn’t realise I was also saying yes to finding myself. But that’s what happened. I started to see myself the way God sees me, through the lens of Ephesians 1:4-5, as chosen, holy, and deeply loved. The lies began to fall away, and the masks came off. And little by little, in the stillness of His presence, I started to recognize the woman He always knew I was.

But after the beauty of clarity comes the challenge of consistency.

I remember asking myself, “Okay… now that I know who I am, what do I do with it?” Because clarity without action is still bondage. Knowing you're meant for more and doing nothing about it can be just as paralyzing as not knowing at all. So I became more intentional in living out my Identity (The version of me that I discerned through revelation by the spirit of God). Soon, I realised that walking in your identity is a posture rather than a destination. It requires daily surrender and a bold decision to live from the truth of God’s word, even when my feelings or my past try to convince me otherwise.

It began with practical habits. I remember always writing out identity truths on sticky notes and sticking them to my bed frame, closet door, and bathroom mirror. I’d write things like;

“I am accepted in the beloved” (Ephesians 1:6),

“I am God’s workmanship” (Ephesians 2:10),

“I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7),

“I am a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for God’s own possession” (1 Peter 2:9)

“I am a new creation, because I am in Christ. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Cor 5:17)

“I am the righteousness of God” (2 Cor 5:21)

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who lives, but Christ who lives in me.” (Gal 2:20)

“But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God” (John 1:12)

These declarations weren't just morning rituals; they became my inner dialogue, reshaping how I saw myself daily.

Another special memory I have was attending a women’s faith conference at my local church. One of my favorite parts of the event was when we each received a small card in an envelope, usually called “your promise from God.” I always looked forward to opening mine because, somehow, the scripture written on it always spoke directly to what I was going through at the time.

At work, I had a scripture-based desk calendar that shared a new verse each day. Reading it every morning became a quiet ritual I looked forward to; it helped me start my day with the right perspective. Eventually, these simple habits began to shift how I saw myself. Whether it was a verse on my desk or a promise card in my Bible, I was learning to create an environment that reminded me of God’s truth.

I began speaking differently to myself, too. Where I once second-guessed my worth, I started setting new standards. My time, my energy, and my heart became too valuable to waste. I stopped entertaining things, friendships, conversations, and environments that no longer aligned with the woman I was becoming. I once heard a man of God say; Purpose defines your boundaries, and I couldn’t agree more.

Before now, I believed confidence only came from taking courses or sitting under great coaches. But I’ve come to realise that “true confidence can be imparted by God.”
That was my story. I experienced a deep, quiet confidence that didn’t come from hype or self-help, but from the assurance that I was walking in alignment with God’s will for my life.

One major shift I must talk about was in my approach to romantic relationships. If I’m honest, I attracted the kind of men I did back then because I lacked self-love, self-awareness, and most importantly, a deep revelation of who I was (Identity). There were patterns I tolerated because I hadn’t set boundaries. There were parts of me that needed healing and discipline. God, in His mercy, was never going to give that version of me to His sons, hence why I was meeting the sons of Pharaoh 🤭. I had to grow.

Today, the quality of men who approach me has changed significantly. Not because I became “better” for someone else, but because I became whole in Christ. I stopped leading with my wounds and started leading with wisdom. Proverbs 4:23 became my anchor:

“Guard your heart with all diligence, for out of it flows the issues of life.”

No area of my life was left untouched. My finances? God began teaching me stewardship. My career? He opened doors and guided me always. My family? He restored broken dynamics and showed me how to love better. My spiritual life? It deepened. I fell in love with prayer, I became a friend of God, and in turn, my convictions were rooted in him.

This journey has made me a woman who’s becoming whole in Christ, and while I know this transformation is ongoing until we see Jesus face to face (Philippians 1:6), I genuinely love where I am. I look around now and I’m proud of the choices I’ve made. Every “no” that felt hard, every “yes” that stretched me, in the end, it was worth it.

Purpose has taught me how to say no without guilt and yes without fear. It has helped me filter my friendships, my partnerships, and my priorities. And the fruit? Even the people who knew me back then say things like, “You’ve changed.” I truly owe it all to the mercies of God that are new in my life every day.

The beautiful thing about God is — when He begins a work in you, He doesn’t do a surface job. He consumes and transforms completely. Like my friend once said, “When God enters a life, He takes up space.” And I can boldly say, He’s taken up space in mine.

I am not saying I am perfect or have become a finished product, but I’m a woman the Lord has shown mercy to. The transformation you see today is not a glow-up; it’s grace and total surrender. It’s a story of redemption, purpose, and alignment.

Final words…

If you're reading this and wondering where to start, I want to assure you that God will always meet you where you are, but it starts with “Total Surrender.”

Here are some resources that have grounded me in purpose-driven living:

• "The Purpose Driven Life" by Rick Warren – A classic. This book gave me a deeper knowledge and revelation of purpose.

• "Battlefield of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer – Crucial in breaking mental strongholds and renewing how I think.

• “The Confident Woman” by Joyce Meyer — I heavily recommend this to all women around the world.

Let me leave you with this:

“You are not here by accident. The world is waiting for the real you.”

God has written something eternal in your DNA. You were born with a purpose, crafted for good works (Ephesians 2:10). And the day you decide to live from that truth, everything shifts.

There is a version of YOU waiting on the other side of surrender.

Cheers to becoming all God created you to be…

Till next time,

With love,

Perpetua